A little snow can be fun, but a lot of snow can be dangerous

Whenever a situation is not too my liking, my brain often flashes back to a completely different time. Things moving too slow? I’ll daydream about an exciting whirlwind time in my life. Things seeming too hectic and can’t slow down? I’ll reminisce about a relaxing vacation where I somehow managed to turn my cell phone off.

As I write this, it is 101 degrees outside. No, I’m not exaggerating, I just looked it up. I’m craving chilly mountain air instead of this unforgiving desert sun. If there was snow, I would stick my face in right now. Enough with the snowcones, bring on the hot cocoa weather already!

There’s a photo on my desk of my boyfriend and his son playing in the snow last December. The scorching heat outside of my office makes this day feel like ages ago, but my mind takes me back to frolicking through snowy fields and snowflakes on my eyelashes. I’m pretty sure that all kids love snow, but kids who live somewhere where it doesn’t snow often and doesn’t manage to stick for long seem to love it the most.

As we were walking to the park for a snowball fight, my boyfriend’s little boy looked up at me and said, “you know, a thing I learned is that a little snow can be fun, but a lot of snow can be dangerous.”

At first, this struck me as an odd thing to say. There was so much snow here all winter long, and it was still fun and not dangerous at all. He went on to tell me all of the things that he had been learning at school about weather, specifically about blizzards and avalanches.

Over the past few weeks I have been doing a lot of thinking about all of the tasks that I take on. Owning a house, cooking dinner every night, a full time job, nonprofit board positions, running for the board of my Home Owner’s Association, yoga, contributing to political campaigns, side projects at work, volunteer projects, taking care of two dogs, going to the gym, family time, tackling my to be read list, fostering friendships, professional development…oof! The list really does go on and on. The problem is that I really, truly enjoy doing all of these things. I never have a moment where I wish that I didn’t have so many commitments, I just wish that I had more time.

But I don’t. And I never will. There are 24 hours in a day, 7 days in a week, 52 weeks in a year. I don’t have any more or any less time than anyone else out there, and that is a fact that is simply never going to change.

A little snow can be fun, but a lot of snow can be dangerous.

I can do a lot, but I can’t do it all. Sure, I may be really great at some of these tasks that I take on, but does it always have to be me?

I have two huge problems when it comes to time management and stress management. Delegating and saying no. It’s not that I am a control freak, I just have serious fear of missing out. But no matter how hard I try to balance it all, it always ends up snowballing when I least expect it. How many avalanches can one girl take?

A little snow can be fun, but a lot of snow can be dangerous.

Such wise words from such a young person.

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So I am trying. I narrowed down a list of causes that I am really passionate about, hobbies that I truly love, and things that I really must do. Everything else, I bowed out. When I see others who care about those things, I use my networking abilities to help make those connections. By showing others how to get involved, I have more time to devote to keeping my sanity.

I’m trying to wait longer before saying yes. This is hard for me because I am such an enthusiastic person. But I am learning to say “let me get back to you” and “let me see what my schedule looks like” before committing myself to anything. It’s really helped. Glancing at a visual of my commitments and telling myself that I cannot do more than what will fit into the boxes on my planner has worked wonders for me. It’s so easy now to say “I literally cannot fit that in.”

Lastly, I’ve stopped giving excuses. I used to always revert back to, “I don’t have the time” or “I’m not sure if I am the right person for that job” and every single time I would get wrapped up into doing the thing I was trying so hard to not commit myself to. People are always quick to respond with “aren’t we all?” or “it won’t take very long” or “oh you’ll be so great for this” without realizing the damage that they are causing. People who don’t suffer from Over Committal Syndrome or People Pleasing-itis (both things that I completely just made up, no need to WebMD the symptoms…I’m sure you know someone with these conditions) don’t see how hard it was for someone to muster the strength to say “no” in the first place. But too much snow can be dangerous, and I know that now. So when I say “thank you, but I can’t…thank you for thinking to ask me”, that’s it. No reason, no excuses. And if they ask why I just say “I can’t at this time, maybe in the future I can do this”.

Looking at this picture on my desk has reminded me to recommit myself to these three practices. I want to make people happy, but I have to start with me. I want to do all of the things, but I need to be able to do them well…and that requires time to rest. Memory lane sure has been a necessary trip for me this afternoon.

Perhaps we all have something to learn from the little people in our lives. So pay attention. You’ll never know what childlike wisdom you really need to hear.

Morning Meltdown – Crisis Averted

I woke up in a bad mood this morning. Not necessarily a grumpy or irritable kind of bad mood, more like the overwhelmed, crying into my steering wheel kind of bad mood. Most days, especially recently, I would have just let this attitude guide the rest of my day. I am sad and anxious today and that’s just how it is. Not today. I looked down at my watch (which isn’t actually a watch, it’s a Fitbit, I don’t have a watch…but if I said I looked down at my Fitbit, wouldn’t that have been a little weird? No? Not any weirder than this weird rambling I’m doing right now to clarify what I meant? Ok.) and realized that it was only 8 AM.

It’s only 8 AM and I have the whole day ahead of me. I have the whole day to decide whether I am going to have a good day or a bad day. And I am determined that I’m not having a bad day. Because I don’t want to.

Having that mindset is all good and great and is definitely a great start, but how exactly was I supposed to go about having a great day when the universe CLEARLY didn’t want me to? I took several deep breaths (do you know how much breathing you can do in just two minutes?!) and then set about doing four simple things that made a huge impact.

Start with an attitude of gratitude. I suffer from anxiety and have for quite some time. I know good and well that the majority of the time that I spend feeling overwhelmed is because anxiety causes my brain to hyper focus on what is going wrong, which means that I lose sight of all of the things that are going right. So this morning on my walk from my car to my desk, I challenged myself to list off ten genuine gratitudes before I sat down in front of my computer. I’m doing a much better job of exercising daily and I am already feeling better. That was easy. I have a job that I love and that I make enough money at that I have started to make huge strides in being completely debt free and have actual savings. Spring has sprung and I have plans to be outside all three days of the weekend, and I have been walking my dogs every evening at sunset. That’s three and I hadn’t even left the parking deck. I tried to focus on “I know that ____, and I also know that _____” type of statements. An example that I have had to work with personally in the past is “I know that people expect me to be married and have children already because of my age, and I also know that other people’s ideas of success shouldn’t dictate how I set my goals and priorities.” This allows me to think about things that I actually value and am grateful for, like community involvement, travelling, and personal time. I completed my list of ten well before I reached my desk and the grateful thoughts just kept coming!

Treat yourself. I don’t necessarily mean in the style of Tom and Donna, a la massages and fine leather goods. But do something nice for yourself. Do you enjoy painting your nails or toenails? Maybe it’s hard to do at your desk if you’re at work, but make a commitment to yourself that you’ll paint those toenails tonight at home. I personally love stationary and will occasionally treat myself to a new pack of thank you cards or sticky notes from the dollar section at Target. This morning? I found a compleyed punch pass in my wallet to Parlour Coffee Bar and my heart instantly soared. I treated myself to a free mocha, enjoyed a nice stroll in the beautiful weather, and got to have a lovely chat with my favorite barista – who happens to be an incredible woman that I also consider a friend! Win-win-win-win!

Get to steppin’. – It’s no secret that exercise and bloodflow are not just good for your physical health, but also for your mental health. I’m not about to tell you some awesome super secret that only I know about. Sorry. But I can give you some insight into how I sneak in some movement into my day, even though I have a desk job. Use the water cooler that is a little further than the one closest to your desk. I use the one downstairs instead of the one that is on my floor. Gives me a little extra time away from staring at my computer screen and gets me moving. Need an excuse to walk away from your desk more often? Start drinking more water! I also like to use my breaks at work to take a walk around the block. I use reminders on my Fitbit to remind me to get 250 steps in each hour. I can draft emails, create to-do lists, brainstorm, read industry related articles, or catch up on webinars while walking around the building. And anytime that I find myself wanting to facepalm, roll my eyes, or any other act of frustration, I instead put my arms over my head and reach high while wiggling my fingers. Stretching is much more effective at calming you down than complaining or letting yourself get agitated.

Be nice. – When I am in a bad mood, being overly nice to people is typically the last thing I want to do. Usually it isn’t a conscious decision. That’s exactly the point. You have to be conscious about how you treat others, especially when you’re already down, grumpy, or stressed. Anyone who knows me will tell you that I love to compliment people. I like to refer to people as “friend,” and I love to tell them when their hair looks great or that the shade of blue they are wearing that day looks fantastic on them. People always love to hear nice things about themselves. And it’s contagious. I know what it’s like to be having a horrible time and hear someone say something nice to me that helps me, even if only a little bit. So why not put more of that out there into the universe? It’s hard to stay in a funk when you are spending all of your time smiling and being friendly!

Sometimes it’s hard to take control over your mindset, especially when you deal with anxiety or depression on a regular basis. But I’ve learned that the earlier I can start doing little things to counteract my funky moods, the easier it is on me. Doing these things really helps me to keep my thoughts in check instead of getting swept up in a whirlwind of irrational thoughts. Because that’s exactly what anxiety is. It’s not easy, and it’s taken me a lot of time to be in a place where I can actually pause and remember to do these things. I’m not going to lie to you, there are still plenty of times when I forget everything I just talked about and spiral into a meltdown. That’s ok. It’s going to happen. Don’t beat yourself up over having a bad day, that’s the last thing you need. You just leave yourself little reminders and you try again next time.

High tide, low tide, Roll Tide.

Six years ago today my life changed forever. It wasn’t because it was my first tornado or anything. I may have lived all over the country, but I’m southern born and southern bred….I know a thing or two about weather.
Thanks, James Spann.
I know the rumbling and roaring of a train when you’re nowhere near tracks. I know the chilling silence that comes mere seconds after a tornado takes out your neighbor’s freshly planted azaleas. And their birdbath. And their swing set which is now somehow in your front yard. I know what it’s like to wake up in the hospital because 250 mph winds send you headfirst into a wall.
April 27, 2011 was not the first time I had dealt with tornados.
But it definitely wasn’t what I was used to.
348 people were killed across the South on April 27, 2011. 252 of those people were killed in Alabama alone.
What I hadn’t expected was to get stranded 45 miles from my house without power for a week. I hadn’t planned on having my friends and family scattered across the state, yet still somehow all in the line of danger. I wasn’t prepared for the phone call I received that night to tell me how a girl I had spoken with almost every day for the last three years died because her ribs punctured her lung when her house collapsed on her. I called and texted literally everyone I knew after that. And even though there were three friends who didn’t respond to my roll call, nothing prepared me for the day that I got internet back more than a week later, and I found them all on a list of storm related deaths.
I didn’t recognize large portions of my state anymore because all the trees were gone, the buildings were crumbled, restaurants I’d eaten at since childhood nowhere to be seen. What was this, what had happened, and how in the hell were we ever going to be okay ever again?
But we were. And we are. There’s still so many people trying to put back their lives six years later. I’m still dealing with a lot of what I saw. But all the disaster and distruction I saw pales in comparison to the outpouring of love, compassion, and community that followed it.
I’m filled with a roller coaster of emotions today.
There are waves of sadness for the things and the people I lost. Feelings of anxiety when my brain flashes back to those moments when I didn’t know what would happen, when I couldn’t reach my family on the phone. The sinking feeling in my stomach when just as I thought it couldn’t get any worse, they projected yet another tornado headed straight for Tuscaloosa. I cry when I think about watching the sky crack open that morning with a flash of green light right before I watched a tornado touch down three blocks up the road from where I was standing.
But there’s so many feelings of joy when I think about hanging out by a fire or playing catch with my friends outside for a week straight because there was no electricity, no gas for our cars, and nothing else to do but worry. Feelings of pride as I saw my state rebuild itself. Feelings of gratitude that even though I lost so much, I managed to walk out not only alive but with my house still standing, my family members alive, and not a single scratch upon me.
It makes me proud of the place I call home to say we’ve come so far since that day took so much away. It’s really hard to be so far from home on days like today, it makes my heart yearn for red dirt.
But it’s a spirit I always keep with me.
High tide, low tide, Roll Tide.

Destination: Craters of the Moon

Ever since we moved to Utah, I have been determined to make it to Idaho. Part of this is related to my goal to visit all 50 states, and part of it is because of Craters of the Moon National Monument. It took two years, but last Autumn we finally got around to making our way up to Idaho for what turned out to be one incredible road trip.

I was at work daydreaming about taking a trip soon, when I got a text from Bo about Atomic City, Idaho. We both love ghost towns, odd attractions, and historical places. The more I read about Atomic City, the more convinced I was that this was a road trip that needed to happen.

I started finding stops along the way using my Roadtrippers app and finally came up with what I knew was going to be an incredible adventure. We woke up early in the morning, packed some snacks, jumped in the car, turned on the ultimate road trip playlist, and hit the road.

Something that I always tell people when they are planning road trips is to leave time for unexpected stops. I’m a stopper. It is not uncommon for me to see something and decide that stopping has to happen. And wouldn’t you know it, that is exactly what happened on this trip.img_0735

An hour into the journey, we saw a sign that said “Devil’s Creek Reservoir” ahead. Both of our eyes lit up and we looked at each other, saying “we have to go” without actually saying a word. We love oddly named things,  I told you. And I will say, Devil’s Creek Reservoir was way more gorgeous than the name would have led me to believe.

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We piled back into the car and headed to Pocatello, Idaho. Pocatello is full of gorgeous trees that I THINK might be Cottonwoods, but I’m no botanist. Whatever they are, they sure do turn an incredible bright yellow color in Autumn. We had to pull over and walk around and take it all in.

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We also made a stop at McKee’s Pet, Garden, and Feed Center so I could pal around with an adorable baby goat. They also had sheep, pigs, emus, chickens, and other animals. But this little sweetie stole my attention.

Once we were back on the road it was straight on to Atomic City. It was pretty weird to be strolling through a once bustling town that now boasts 25 people at most. It was eerily quiet and provided some great photo ops. The town has a few houses and trailers, a bar, and a gas station that no longer has gas due to laws that prohibit them from placing the tanks underground.

We also saw several deer far more up close than we are used to. We thought about grabbing a drink at the local watering hole, but decided to head on to Experimental Breeder Reactor #1 instead.

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That’s right. Arco, Idaho was the first city in the world to be lit by atomic power. It was also the first city in the world to suffer from a nuclear meltdown, but they don’t talk about that one as much. There is a museum at the site of the first plant that offers self guided tours Memorial Day through Labor Day. We missed this time frame but still had fun checking out the outside of the building and the outdoor displays, reading the site markers, and listening to You Dropped A Bomb on Me by The Gap Band a ridiculous number of times.

Then it was time to head to the highlight of our trip, Craters of the Moon National Monument. Craters of the Moon is made up of lava flows, cinder cones, and sagebrush. It definitely doesn’t look like anything else that I have ever seen. The visitor center near the entrance has a nice educational exhibit that gave us some interesting information that we used to identify different types of lava flows while he hiked the trails through the park. We were a little pressed for time since we wanted to make so many stops, so we decided to pick three trails to give us a good feel for the area.

We opted to walk the North Crater Flow, a small trail that was less than half a mile. This easy walking trail had a variety of formations and lots of educational signage, so it was a great way to start our tour.

Our next stop was Inferno Cone. While this trail is only .5 mile long, it’s all uphill. Seriously. It’s steep. But the views were beyond worth it.

Our last stop was a trek to the lava tubes. We definitely wanted to be sure to check out one of the caves before leaving. There are five explorable caves at Craters of the Moon, and four of them can be accessed from the Caves Trail. We opted for Indian Tunnel, since it has openings and we would not need a flashlight to explore it.

Indian Tunnel is a lava tube, the most common form of cave found at Craters of the Moon. Lava tubes form when the supply of lava stops at the end of an eruption and lava in the tube system drains downslope and leaves partially empty openings beneath the ground. You need to get a permit to explore the caves here, but you can get a free one at the Visitor Center when you enter the park.

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After all of our exploring, we realized that we had worked up quite the appetite. On our way to Craters of the Moon, we had seen signs for a place that bragged to be “Home of the Atomic Burger” and that pretty much settled the decision about where to eat before we headed back home. Before we popped into Pickle’s Place, we made a stop across the street to see USS Hawkbill (SSN-666), aka “The Devil Boat.” No…you read that right. There’s a submarine in the middle of Idaho on the side of the highway, and it is marked by the number of the beast. What is it with the devil/hell/inferno references on this trip?!

We ate dinner, swapped photos, and tried to decide what our favorite moments of our day trip had been. It was definitely hard to decide. Bo had the atomic burger, and I am happy to say that he isn’t glowing. At least not yet, anyway. We grabbed a butterscotch milkshake to go and headed home as the sun set.

It definitely wasn’t your traditional trip, but the oddity and uniqueness of every experience was beyond perfect. Where are some of the weirdest places that you’ve visited?

Udon Noodle Soup With Miso and Soft Boiled Eggs

I love ramen. I love soba noodles. I love udon noodles. Basically I love any asian style soup img_1685that features noodles. As much as I love these things and also love to cook, I have never actually made ramen or an udon noodle soup at home until very recently. Unless you count the instant ramen noodles…you know, the cheap 4 for $1 deals. And you shouldn’t count those. If you have never had ramen from an actual restaurant you are seriously missing out. Or maybe you just need to make the real thing at home like I did last night.

A few weeks ago while he was in Las Vegas, Bo tried authentic ramen in a restaurant for the first time. He absolutely loved it and asked if it was something that I could make. And honestly, I wasn’t sure that I could. So when this recipe for Udon Noodle Soup showed up as one of my choices from Blue Apron, I jumped at the chance to try it. It’s probably one of the best decisions that I have ever made.
If you have never tried Blue Apron, it is a subscription box style meal planning service that delivers properly portioned and fresh ingredients with easy to follow recipes directly to your doorstep. Each week you get three meals that serve two people. There’s also a family option for feeding four people. I’ll be posting an overall review of Blue Apron here on my blog at the end of the week but if this recipe is any indicator, I am pretty sure that I am in love. I was blown away by the freshness and quality of the ingredients that I received, and that definitely played a huge role in how yummy this soup turned out. I’ve included the recipe at the end of this post, or you can find it here on Blue Apron’s website. Great ingredients can really change everything in a meal, so if you have ever thought about giving Blue Apron a try, DO IT!
The nerdy part of me gets REALLY into learning about food, terminology, and nutrition. The science and culture of food is absolutely fascinating to me and plays a huge part in my love of cooking. Being someone who loves to eat also plays a lot into me being into cooking, but that is beside the point. I read a lot about different types of noodles while making this recipe, and am really looking forward to making this recipe again in the future and making subtle changes to it to keep it new and exciting.
This soup used udon noodles, so let’s start there.
  •  Udon noodles are some of my absolute favorite because they are thick, chewy, and super filling. If you pick up some udon noodles for yourself, definitely go for fresh. These noodles are usually in a refrigerated section at most grocery stores and you can always find them at any Asian market. It is difficult to find dried udon noodles most places, but believe me when I say that you don’t want them. The texture is never quite right, so just save yourself the heartache and go for the fresh noodles. Udon noodles are very subtle in flavor so they go great with any soup, unless you plan on using a base that isn’t very flavorful and in that case I would definitely recommend going with a more flavor packed noodle.
  • Soba noodles are a great example of a flavorful noodle. They are made from buckwheat flour and have a somewhat nutty taste to them. You see them in a lot more salads than soups since they do have such a distinct (delicious) flavor to them.
  • If wheat noodles just aren’t your thing, you can always opt for rice noodles. Most rice noodles are similar in size in shape to angel hair pasta. These are the types of noodles that you see in a lot of Vietnamese and Thai dishes.
  • Ramen noodles are probably the Asian style noodle that most Americans are familiar with. Whether you associate them with your broke college days or with the top of Justin Timberlake’s head circa 1997, you definitely associate them with something and you know what they are. I personally prefer the softer and thicker udon noodles, but you will definitely never see me turn down a tasty bowl of ramen!

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Here is Blue Apron’s recipe for Udon Noodle Soup. I followed it exactly and only added Sriracha to the finished product. I honestly believe that they reason this turned out so well is because of how fresh and tasty the ingredients are that come in the Blue Apron box. What you will find below is just the recipe. When you order a box you get portioned out, high quality, fresh ingredients, and photos along side the step by step instructions. Their site and the boxes also come with tips and tricks for things like how to best peel and chop ginger, the easiest way to mince garlic, etc.
Try the recipe below and let me know what you think. I’d also love to hear about YOUR Blue Apron experience!
Udon Noodle Soup With Miso and Soft Boiled Eggs
  • 2 Cage-Free Farm Eggs
  • ½ Pound Fresh Udon Noodles
  • 4 Ounces Baby Bok Choy

  • 2 Cloves Garlic
  • 2 Scallions
  • 1 Carrot
  • 1 Lime
  • 3 Tablespoons Roasted Peanuts
  • 1 1-Inch Piece Ginger
  • 1 Tablespoon Hoisin Sauce
  • 1 Tablespoon Sesame Oil
  • ¼ Cup Sweet White Miso Paste
Don’t forget Sriracha!
First things first is the prep work. Wash and dry the fresh produce. Heat a small pot of water to boiling on high. Peel and finely chop the garlicPeel and finely chop the ginger. Cut off and discard the root end of the scallions; thinly slice, separating the white bottoms and green tops. Peel the carrot and thinly slice into rounds. Cut off and discard the root end of the bok choy; roughly chop. Cut the lime in half crosswise. Roughly chop the peanuts.
Carefully add the eggs to the pot of boiling water. Cook for exactly 7 minutes. Drain thoroughly and rinse under cold water for 30 seconds to 1 minute to stop the cooking process. When cool enough to handle, carefully peel the cooked eggs. Transfer to a cutting board and set aside in a warm place.
While the eggs cook, in a large pot, heat 2 teaspoons of olive oil on medium-high until hot.Add the garlic, ginger and white bottoms of the scallions; season with salt and pepper. Cook, stirring constantly, 30 seconds to 1 minute, or until fragrant. Add the carrot; season with salt and pepper. Cook, stirring occasionally, 2 to 3 minutes, or until slightly softened.
To the pot, add the noodles (carefully separating with your hands before adding), sesame oil and the juice of both lime halves. Cook, stirring occasionally, 2 to 4 minutes, or until thoroughly combined and heated through. Turn off the heat; season with salt and pepper to taste.
Divide the finished soup between 2 bowls. Halve the peeled eggs lengthwise and season with salt and pepper. Top the soup with the seasoned eggs. Garnish with the peanuts and green tops of the scallions. 
Enjoy!

Example #1 Of Why I Am Thankful To Be Done With Dating

Back when I was in college I decided to do this thing where I would just agree to a date with anyone. I didn’t really know what I liked or even who I was so who was I to judge anyone without at least having a real conversation with them?

One morning, this incredibly handsome guy bumped into me outside of the library, spilling my coffee to the ground. At which point I looked down and whispered “I’ll miss you.” as tears proceeded to roll down my face. This is not a joke. “I’m so sorry. Wait, did you just talk to your coffee? Oh my god, you’re crying. I am so sorry.” He rambled all at once. “It’s fine, I’m sorry for the crying thing…my eyes just…kinda…leak,” I said. It was true. They did. They still do. “It’s just so early and I am SO not in my bed.”

He smiled at me and offered to get me another coffee. This is coffee we are talking about so of course I let him. He even got me a larger size for the inconvenience. I’m pretty sure he only did  any of this since we were mere steps from the coffee shop inside of the library, but that is beside the point. I met a guy. At the library. And he bought me coffee. And in a building surrounded by books, he asked me out to dinner while I stared at his cheekbones.
So fast forward to the night that we actually go out. He took me out to eat and while I don’t remember where we ate or what we ordered, I remember that the restaurant was really nice and that I had never been there and I am pretty sure that I never went there again. Give me a break, it was a long time ago. We talked about our classes, how much he missed his dog that had to stay back home with his parents, fairly typical stuff. And then I asked him.
“So what kind of books do you like?”
“I don’t,” he answered quickly and with a smirk.
“What?”
“I just don’t really enjoy reading. I try to avoid it at all costs. It’s so boring.”
“Didn’t you say that you’re a History major? Isn’t reading something you kind of HAVE to do?”
“Well that doesn’t mean I like it. I’m not going to be one of those nerds who takes a book with me everywhere that I go.”
I pulled a copy of Jane Eyre out of my purse, stood up, and left. That’s the only time I have ever just walked out halfway through a date and looking back I kind of feel like I should at least have given him the courtesy of finishing dinner. I never saw him again and that’s fine with me. What isn’t fine with me is that my need to defend books led to me eating a granola bar while I walked to a friend’s dorm in the rain.

Shrill: Notes From a Loud Woman – Lindy West

shrillI will start by saying that I really thought that this book was going to be more about her being loud than it turned out to be. The title, the subtitle, my own loudness. It’s the main reason I picked it up. It’s mostly about her being fat and secondly about her being a woman with thoughts.

Because, you know, people still don’t like that. There are great parts in the book that do deal with being a loud, opinionated woman, but given the title I just thought that would be the majority of the book.

Regardless, I am beyond thrilled that I picked this up. It’s so funny and raw and flows so smoothly that I finished it in one sitting. It was me and Lindy and a cup of coffee. Well it was really just me drinking too much coffee and shouting things at my book like “THANK YOU, somebody had to say it” and “you tell ’em, girl!”

Side note: talking to intimate objects is common for me. Yes, I have seen a doctor about it. He said it was nothing to worry about. So I just keep doing it.

There are very few moments in the book where it feels as if she is whining and complaining, which can be easy to do when you are writing about your problems with the way society views certain issues. Instead, this book is more about self awareness and acceptance, growing in spite of fatness, loudness, womanhood, or whatever other undesirable trait you may possess. West’s writing is funny and never dull. It reads like a chat with a good pal. Speaking of which, if you enjoy audio books, she narrates this book herself in the audio book version. So it’s just like sitting there and having this hilarious woman rattle off stories to you.

In Shrill, West covers rape culture, fat shaming, and other areas of feminism. For someone who never intended to be an advocate of anything, she sure is good at it. Many people look at women as being smart or funny, but rarely both. As if comedy is something that women use to cover up something that they lack. Shrill proves that, yes, women can be both. And Lindy West is both.

That being said, I do have one small complaint. If you follow Lindy West as a blogger, much of this is content that you have already read. Not just the subjects, but some of the exact content is pulled from her blogs. There are some rewordings and extra bits thrown into some but there are still pieces that are entirely new, as in the beginning when she humorously rattles off the small list of fat female role models she could look up to as a young girl. If you have never read any of her work, this is a great way to do so and get some great variety. If you follow and already love her, this is still a must read in my opinion because it really shows her range as a writer.
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“Women matter. Women are half of us. When you raise every woman to believe that we are insignificant, that we are broken, that we are sick, that the only cure is starvation and restraint and smallness; when you pit women against one another, keep us shackled by shame and hunger, obsessing over our flaws rather than our power and potential; when you leverage all of that to sap our money and our time—that moves the rudder of the world. It steers humanity toward conservatism and walls and the narrow interests of men, and it keeps us adrift in waters where women’s safety and humanity are secondary to men’s pleasure and convenience.”